57 per cent of those who personally endured a trauma suffer from the condition
Nearly 100,000 children are suffering from post traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) because of severe bullying and violence, researchers have warned.
The first comprehensive study of the issue in Britain found 7.8 per cent of people under the age of 18 are living with the condition more commonly associated with veteran soldiers.
Its authors warned of a hidden epidemic whereby children suffering from nightmares, irritability and concentration problems are going undiagnosed and untreated.
Barely a third of children with PTSD seek help from their GP, while only one in five ever get to see a specialist, the research found.
Published in the Lancet, the study should increase awareness of PTSD among parents and teachers, the team at King’s College London said.
They drew on a cohort of 2,232 twins born in 1994 and 1995 who were given a full psychiatric interview at the age of 18, following four previous assessments between the ages of 5 and 12.
Just over three in 10 children were found to have experienced some kind of trauma during their childhood.
The most common type was so-called “network” trauma, where a child find out about a traumatic event suffered by someone they know.
However, among those who went on to develop PTSD – 57 per cent – the most common reason was direct personal experience, or the treat of experiencing, assault, injury or sexual violation.
This included bullying in school.
Professor Andrea Danese, who led the research, said: “Our findings should serve as a wake-up call – childhood trauma is a public health concern yet trauma-related disorders often go unnoticed. Young people with PTSD are falling through the gaps in care and there is a pressing need for better access to mental health services.”
Symptoms of the condition include re-living traumatic events through distressing memories or nightmares, avoidance of anything reminding them of trauma, feelings of guilt, isolation or detachment, as well as irritability, impulsivity and difficulty concentrating.
Previous research has found that the risk of PTSD following exposure to trauma is greater in girls.
The new study revealed that half of young people with PTSD had self-harmed, while one in five had attempted suicide since the age of 12.
A quarter were not in education, employment or training, and half said they experienced high levels of social isolation or loneliness.
“One of the distressing things is how few of the young people with PTSD received treatment,” said Professor Danese, who also practises as a NHS consultant child and adolescent psychiatrist.
We have very effective ways of treating PTSD, but they are most effective when the treatment occurs early on.
Dr Stephanie Lewis, who co-authored the study, said: “Young people who have been exposed to trauma often have complex problems, which become increasingly difficult to assess and treat.
“We encourage parents and carers to seek support from health professionals if their children are exposed to trauma and are suffering from distressing psychological symptoms.”
The research was funded by the Medical Research Council, a UK Government funding agency.
These after-dark weight loss tips will help you lose weight. As per a study, the more you stay up late at night, the more likely you’ll be to gain weight. So, the best that you can do is to hit the bed early. But what if we tell you that, you are likely to lose weight even when you are asleep? You can lose weight while you are sleeping as well! This article deals with the ways to lose weight while sleeping. Further, by sleeping early, you are likely to skip the foods that you might gorge on during that time and this will let you lose your excess body weight.Here are some ways to lose weight while you sleep.
1.Schedule Your Tea Time: Some teas have weight loss properties and they help in dimming your hunger hormones and also increase your calorie burn. It also helps the fat stored in the cells to be burned.
2.Eat Whole Grains At Lunch: It is best to eat complex carbohydrates at lunch and not during dinner time. Eating 20 grams of insoluble fibre is more than enough.
3.Keep It Small At Night: When you eat a heavy meal at night, your body will take more time to digest it and might as well keep you awake. Hence, the fat-burning process gets affected in this case. This is one of the best ways to lose weight while sleeping and that is to have small portions during dinner.
4.Set Strict Kitchen Hours: Closing the kitchen early may help you lose weight better. This will let you stay lean and you’ll not nosh round the clock.
5.Shake Things Up: Having a protein shake will help boost your metabolism at night. This will make your body burn more calories. You could make your own protein shakes and have it at least 2 hours before you hit the bed.
6.Smell Some Mint: Certain scents can actually suppress your appetite. As per a study, it was found that people who sniffed peppermint every two hours once lost about 5 pounds a month! This is one of the ways you could lose weight while you sleep.
These are the ways to lose weight while you sleep.
Most of girls do not want the ordinary scenario, that is the guy getting down on one knee with a red rose in his hand, and just proposing. Though this is an old way of proposing. You can make your proposal as the best and the most romantic date with your loved ones. These are some best ways to propose a girl.
Be yourself This is the first rule that you need to get into your mind when you think of proposing a girl. Do not overdo your proposal. Keep it simple yet special and sweet. Be creative, and be yourself. Its every girls dream to have a guy propose to her. Be who you are, and in your own special way say those three golden words. Candle light dinner This is a classic but one of great ways to propose your dream girl. Candles are one of the quintessential elements of a romantic evening. The dim lights of the candles burning flames and the romantic tunes sets one of the perfect settings for a romantic proposal. Place where you met first time Take her to the place where you met each other for the first time. Recreate the same moment and then propose to her. It will definitely move her and get embossed on her memory for lifetime.
Special day What better way to propose to the woman of your dreams is on Valentines Day, Christmas Day, Eid Day, Holly or Dewali Day. Corny but very romantic. Pick a day that has special meaning to you both, such as a birthday, anniversary of your friendship or the day when you went for your first date and etc. A proposal isn’t something to take lightly. Banner Proposal If you can’t express your feeling or you are afraid of rejection then you can use banner for proposing a girl. You can get a banner prepared with the word ‘I Love You’ and have it displayed outside her house or in the workplace.
A couple should use the engagement period to gauge their compatibility and each other’s personalities before saying ‘I do’.
In India, speaking on a general note, it is quite often about differences of expectations regarding the wedding.
My friend Ria just had her engagement terminated. I am upset about it as a broken engagement is, after all, about shattered dreams of romance. They’re nearly at the finish line and were looking forward to a happy life together, a home and children. Ria is warm and giving and as ‘nice’ as they come. She’s a happy and positive fun person. But things “didn’t work out,” she says. That’s supposed to sum it up.
I ponder a lot on the subject. When engagements take place, usually the two young people are moving in a space of upbeat happiness and anticipation to a loving future together— whether the choice is made by them or arranged by the families. So why does something that starts on a happy celebratory note have to end in such a sour note that it has the parties resorting to the ultimatum — breaking off of the whole association?
In India, speaking on a general note, it is quite often about differences of expectations regarding the wedding. The arrangements, the levels of grandeur, the material exchanges and sometimes about the outright ‘dowry’ or other material gifts of considerable value that girl’s side is supposed to gift, which the grooms side casually might pass off with— remarks such as “after all we are not asking, they are only giving everything to their own beloved daughter! How pretty she looks in that silver BMW!” No, this trend has not lessened with time. In fact, the ‘Big Indian wedding’ is only growing bigger in an ostentatious show that can even many-a-time be horrendously wasteful. It is a matter of ‘reputation’, you see! (Of the groom’s family, of course) with almost the entire onus traditionally put on the bride’s family to manage however they can. Reputation here is synonymous to the wealth at display.
While things may be changing in some families, it’s very normal to spend outrageously in Indian weddings. Some new-age families share costs and everyone’s happy. Some even forgo a big fat Indian wedding and go on a cruise or long holiday. But such weddings are still very much the norm.
Let’s put aside the material issue or family differences. Even on a personality front, where two people get engaged with the mutually happy prospects of loving matrimony, why do they then break off? Psychologists give many reasons. The easiest to accept logically is that the personality make-ups are very contrasting, the tastes, tendencies are so different that it is for the best that they go their very divergent ways! Infact, an engagement is a period where you get to weight these aspects before the life long ‘till death do us part’. It’s better to do that now than later.
Allow the engagement period to be the test of personalities to check whether a couple will be happy together, going forward. The bottom line is that it is better for a couple to part ways before the wedding. Often in India, a marriage is considered in the light of backgrounds and material possessions. This may work to some extent but not without the compatibility of the couple. If the ‘well suited’ couple have a harmonious, companionable and attuned marriage, that would be an ideal engagement indeed.
Despite seeming hurtful even at the engagement stage, if it is not working out, it is indeed better to part ways before and not after the marriage. This way, it’s better for all concerned.
Dating in the age of technology seems easy. At the touch of a button on your smartphone, you have access to literally thousands of singles through online dating sites and apps. But what happens when you meet someone with potential so you arrange a date and … bam! You’ve been ghosted and stood up on your first date.
You are left at the amusement park, heartbroken and alone, eating $10 french fries and riding the roller coaster all by yourself.
Your mind starts reeling.
“What is going on here? Is my date in a coma? Does he need me by his side? That’s the only reasonable excuse he could have for standing me up.”
“Is she OK? Or is she shacking up with someone she met at the bar last night? What went wrong? What did I do wrong?”
“Online dating sucks! I will never find love or go on a date again. Ever!”
If you’ve ever been ghosted, know that you are not alone. Maybe you’re alone in the relationship department for now, but you’re not the only one who has been stood up by a date before.
Here are 4 pieces of dating advice on what to do (and not do!) after you’ve been ghosted and stood up on a first date.
1. Don’t text bomb.
If you were stood up on a date, don’t blow up their phone! Whatever you do, don’t start calling him excessively until he picks up. Or rather, never picks up.
If they are in a coma (which is probably not the case), they won’t hear it anyway. And if they are still shacking up from last night, they are most likely not gonna pick up the phone and ask you out for bagels in the morning to make up for it.
2. Do take it easy on yourself.
Just because your date ghosted you doesn’t mean you are a loser, a lackey, or a fool. You just happened to get hit with a dating rogue wave.
Sometimes, ghosting happens to the best of us. You are lucky they let you down now — before you find out that they’re the best kisser on the planet and you start really falling for them, only to be left heartbroken later.
3. Don’t take it personally.
This is an opportunity for you to learn how to get comfortable in your single skin. It is not your fault your date blew you off. Something actually could have happened like they did lose their phone or their grandmother died.
Or they could give you a big pretend excuse like the one I heard once: “I was at a Mormon College, my phone and my computer got stolen and there was no Internet there.” Yeah, right. In this case, it’s not you, it’s them.
4. Do look at your past and take steps to move on.
If you’ve been rejected and experienced heartbreak in the past — when you were a kid or in a past relationship — it can affect the way you feel today, even as an adult.
If your dad didn’t want to come to your little league games when you were 7-years-old, the same kinds of feelings and hormones can flood your body today, just like they did 20 years ago. So the broken heart that you’re feeling after being ghosted could stem from being rejected in the past.
But that was then, and this is now. If you are still having troubles letting go of past rejections, there are a few things you can do today that will help you become more aware of yourself and help you move on.
Meditate, appreciate, and celebrate who you are right now, even if you are single. And as much as being ghosted sucks, every date that stands you up is an opportunity to show that you have the courage to dust yourself off and get back out there again.
Dina Colada is a dating and life coach. Sign up for her love newsletter or send her an email.
If you are a mother of a girl then it is very essential for you to know each and every needs of your daughter. There are many things that you can only tell her. If you are feeling shy to talk anything to your daughter then leave the shy and make your daughter a perfect girl, increase her confidence to stand confidentially in-front of many people. Active listening Listen what your daughter is saying. Don’t interrupt her. Guide her in the way, where you don’t become a negative part. Positive communication starts with good listening. When you practice active listening, you concentrate on what your daughter tells you instead of thinking about your response or advice that you want to give.
Trust Create an atmosphere of trust. If you will trust your daughter then you will also get the positive feedback from her. When you talk to a teen, it’s simple for character attacks, blaming, assumptions, over-generalizations, past events and irrelevant issues to sneak into conversations. To promote positive communication, talk to your teen about how the two of you can communicate with each other in a way that’s more respectful, focused and open; brainstorm together.
You are her mother As a mom, it’s important to maintain your role as a parent, not as your daughter’s best friend. Your daughter has friends her own age and she’s more interested in finding her own sense of self than being the younger version of you. However, it’s important to stay connected to your daughter by listening to the music that she enjoys, going window shopping and taking a true interest in what she likes.
Accept their lifestyle This is probably the most difficult step for mothers but it is one of the most important. You have to understand and accept that your daughter is not a child any longer. She is growing into an independent, mature human being and the sooner you begin treating her as such, the better your relationship will be.
Respect for all others Children are not born with racism and classicism. It is environmental conditioning. Much of it is unconscious, and all of it is due to misunderstandings. The best thing you can do for your daughters is to give them as many experiences as possible with as many different people as possible.
Self-respect This is perhaps one of the most important of all of their life lessons. Self-respect isn’t just honoring themselves. It is being able to objectively take a look at themselves, at where they actually are, and where they want to go. Through their experiences with stillness, with play, with socialization, and through their reactions to life experiences, your daughters will come to learn who they really are. Encourage them in this discovery. Encourage them to learn from experience and identify how they are changing and growing.
Take responsibility for your actions and apologize when you are in the wrong.
Christopher Colombus had nicknamed Papaya as “The Fruit of Angels” owing to its luscious taste and it’s butter like smooth consistency and rich texture. We are aware of the numerous health benefits of this tropical fruit and because of that reason, it is also applied as masks on both face and hair. This tropical fruit is rich in antioxidants apart from possessing vitamins A, C, E and K. It’s not just the pulp but the seeds of this fruit are also beneficial. The presence of an important enzyme called Papain makes its use in various cosmetic, beauty and hair products.
1. Skin lightening agent – Whether it’s cleansing the skin of impurities or brightening the skin or removing pigmentation, the presence of vitamin C in Papaya satisfies all these needs.
How to apply – Take a thin fleshy slice of ripe Papaya, apply it in face, neck, hands and feet. Let it sit and dry for around 15-20 mins. Wash off with cold water and pat dry. Repeat 3-4 times a week.
Mix 1/2 cup of ripe Papaya with the juice of 1 lemon and gently massage it on face, neck and hands. Leave it on for half an hour and then rinse with cold water. Practise this once a week.
2. Hydrates skin, moisturises and softens – Papaya is rich in water content which helps to keep the skin hydrated.
How to apply – Blend around 1/2 cup of raw Papaya into a fine paste and add little raw honey to it. Apply the paste on face and neck, leave it for 15 mins and then rinse off carefully with cold water. Pat dry the skin.
3. Delays skin ageing – The presence of Vitamin A in Papaya helps skin looking young, vibrant, softened and supple. Regular consumption of Papaya in raw form or smoothie removes dead skin cells and impurities, rejuvenates it making skin glowing and fresh.
How to apply – Thoroughly mash 1/2 cup of overripe Papaya, add 3/4 drops of honey and 1 tablespoon of milk. Make a paste of this and apply on face and neck. Leave it on for 20 mins and rinse off carefully with cold water. Pat dry the skin. Repeat the process twice a week and observe the difference.
4. Fades skin spots – The brightening effect of Papaya reduces dark spots, blemishes, brown spots, pigmentation or dark elbows and knees.
How to apply – Mix 1/4 cup of raw Papaya paste, 1 tablespoon of lemon juice,1/2 tablespoon of raw honey. Make a paste of this and apply it to the affected area. Leave it on for 20 mins and let it dry. Rinse off with cold water and repeat the process 3/4 times a week to reduce spots of any type.
5. Heals wrinkles, Crow’s feet and cracked heels – The antioxidant properties of Papaya helps diminish Crow’s feet around corners of eyes, wrinkles around forehead and mouth and cracked itchy heels. Vitamin C in Papaya helps fight off free radicals that damage the skin.
How to apply –
Rub a small piece of raw Papaya gently around the eye area for 5 mins once daily to remove Crow’s feet. Leave it on for 15 mins and rinse off with cold water. Mix 1 tablespoon of ripe Papaya pulp with 3/4 drops of olive oil and apply on the wrinkled areas. Let it sit for 20 mins and then rinse off with cool water. Pat dry and apply a moisturiser, leave overnight. Apply every alternate day. Mash 1 ripe Papaya and make a thick paste. Apply this on freshly cleaned heels and leave for 30 mins. Wash of with lukewarm warm, pat dry and apply a moisture/ olive oil and Wear a pair of socks overnight. Repeat this every night for soft smooth heels.
6. Prohibits growth of unwanted facial hair – Raw Papaya contains the enzyme Papain that weakens the hair follicles on the face from regrowth.
How to apply- Mix 1/2 cup of raw Papaya paste and 1/2 teaspoon of turmeric powder. Apply the paste on the affected area and let it dry naturally. Scrub off the dried paste and rinse off with lukewarm water. Repeat the process once a week.
7. Reduces acne and pimples – The exfoliating property of Papaya helps to cleanse the skin by removing the dead skin cells, which aids to unclog the pores.
How to apply – Cut a few pieces of raw Papaya and blend in a mixture. Strain the juice from the paste and rub the Papaya juice on the affected area with a cotton ball. Let it dry in its own and then rinse off with cold water. Practise this regularly. You can also Rub a thin slice of raw Papaya gently on the affected area for around 10 mins. Wash it off with cold water and pat dry. Follow regularly to get best results.
8. Promotes hair growth and controls dandruff – Papaya is rich in vitamins, minerals and enzymes that promotes hair growth and helps reduce split ends. It prevents accumulation of oils on the scalp that causes dandruff. The minerals help in bringing back the shine of your locks gives a thickening look and controls hair thinning or baldness.
How to apply – To prepare the hair mask, blend 1 cup of diced raw Papaya, 1 cup of ripe banana, 1 cup of yoghurt, 1 tablespoon of olive oil or coconut oil. Apply the mask on damp/wet hair, cover with a shower cap and leave it on for 30 mins. Wash it off with lukewarm water. Practise the remedy once a week to enjoy healthy glowing luscious tresses. To control dandruff, blend a few slices of raw Papaya thoroughly until there are no lumps. Add 1/2 cup yoghurt and mix well. Churn it in the mixer well till it becomes a smooth paste. Apply the paste on the scalp as well as on hair and leave for around 30 to 40 mins. Wash it off with normal water and finally shampoo your hair. Repeat the process once or twice a week to prevent dandruff. This methods also add shine to your hair.
Please Note: The above remedies are suited for all skin types yet before applying it on the affected area it’s recommended that you first try it on hands and inner skin of the elbow area. In case of sensitive skin, there may be slight itchiness. The test patch ensures whether it’s suitable for your skin or not. Thank you for sparing your time and going through the article. Drop in your feedback regarding this post. If you like the write up share it with your friends and follow me to receive updates on a variety of articles in the near future.
Choosing who to have in your wedding is never an easy decision, but these photos prove that having your pup as a part of the big day only makes it better. Complete with miniature tuxedos and delicate flower crowns, these dogs look almost as beautiful as the brides.
Just be careful if you decide to invite your furry friend to the big event — they just might give the bride and groom a run for their money. They can’t help that they look so cute!
Valentine’s Day is a great opportunity to show the non-romantically affiliated people in your life that you love them, too. Your work-wife, your call-at-any-hour-of-the-day bestie, your honorary sister . . . so many people in your life deserve a little something more original than a box of chocolate. And don’t stress. You don’t have to go searching high and low to find a creative gift at a great price point. Thanks to Nordstrom’s curated Valentine’s Day Gift Guide, you can find hundreds of gifts for just about anyone in your life. Yes, even yourself. Shop our favorites under $100.
Single people can be awesome parents as long as they don’t try to do it all alone.
Parenting is one of the most important and challenging jobs in the world. Being a single parent is even more challenging. No child comes with instructions. Every child is different. You are still going to need friends and family to support you.
You have already learned some of the styles that work for you and your children. Each of the styles are general. You are going to need to find what works for you.
I am using the word “styles” in its broadest sense. It is more than methods of parenting. It also includes taking care of your own psychological, physical, mental and spiritual needs. It is important for you to be healthy to parent well.
Here are 9 positive parenting styles for single parents:
1. Love yourself.
First, you need to take care of yourself. You need to be at your best for yourself and your child. Make time to go out with friends. Get plenty of sleep. Make sure you and your child eat well.
Continue to nurture your adult needs through for example, work, volunteering, hobbies, joining a group, being part of a religious or spiritual community and having time to relax.
This is important.
2. Ask for help when you need it.
Raising children with a partner is tough enough, doing it alone is even harder. If you find yourself in a place where you are struggling as an individual and as a parent, there are people to help you.
There is no shame in getting assistance. Getting help is a sign of strength when you have the wisdom to reach out.
You might have a friend or family member you trust. If you need more than what they can offer you can find a minister, priest, rabbi, mullah, or other spiritual leaders. There are counsellors, psychologist and coaches who can help you.
I urge you to get help before the issues become severe. You have nothing to be ashamed of. The important thing is that you get the help you need.
3. Your child needs you to be their parent.
You may get lonely parenting by yourself. In the early years of your child’s life, you need to remember he or she is your child and not your friend. You need to go elsewhere to find friendship.
You are there to make sure your child gets everything she or he needs to grow up into a healthy adult. You need to make sure your child stays healthy through getting proper rest and good food.
It is important to make sure your child gets the education they need. You need to support them through their schooling.
It is vital for you to keep them physically and emotionally safe. Sometimes this will mean saying no to something your child wants to do that is not safe. It can mean physically stopping them from doing something dangerous; e.g. preventing your child from running across a busy road or stopping them from touching a hot burner.
Your goal as a parent is not to be popular but to be faithful to raising your child in the best way possible.
4. Make sure your children know they’re loved.
The most important thing you can do is to make sure your child feels loved. The best way to do this is to spend time with them.
You need to let them know, that you love them unconditionally. This does not mean you appreciate every choice they make. The more your child can understand that there is nothing that will stop your love for them the better chance they have growing up into well-adjusted adults.
Take the time to listen to your child. Play with them, read to them and sing with them. Go on outings to parks, pools, playgrounds, museums, gardens, movies, plays, concerts and they will know they are valued. The most important thing is that you take the time to be with them.
Don’t deceive yourself into thinking that it is enough to spend money on your child without you spending time with him or her. While a child may not admit it, your time and attention are far more critical.
5. Remember that no one of us, parent or child is perfect.
Make room for grace and love.
No one is an ideal parent or child. Thankfully your child is most likely resilient and will still grow up into a mature adult despite the imperfections of your parenting.
It is still essential to do your best, but don’t despair if you fall short of being the perfect parent. If your child knows they are loved they will mature into beautiful women and men.
Do not compare your child to others in your family or among your friends. Each child is unique. Your goal is to help them to feel happy, loving, content, intelligent and feel capable.
You are there to help your child to discover who they are and what they are meant to do in the world. Celebrate with your child no matter what they discover their passions are even if it is not what you dreamed for her or him.
6. Know your strengths and weaknesses.
The better you know yourself the better the parent you will be. Learning about yourself is a life long journey. When you are aware of your strengths and weaknesses you can discern what help you need.
You may discover that your child has an issue that you don’t have the knowledge or resources to help them with. Thus, it is in your child’s best interest to find someone who can assist them.
Pay attention to the mirroring of your issues by your children. It may be hard to accept but, you will you become healthier if you act on these insights.
7. Give the child the type of parenting they need.
No two children are alike. One of your children might need to help to slow down and relax. Your next child might need encouragement to play with kids of his or her age. Another child might need help to overcome their anxiety.
8. Don’t say one thing and do another.
Your child is observing you. Hence, it is vital that you walk your talk. If you say one thing and do another thing, your child is not going to take you seriously.
Your daughter or son needs you to be consistent in what you say. They want to trust you, but they will have a hard time when you do the opposite of what you say.
9. Enjoy every moment in life.
Your child will grow up very fast. Enjoy the wonder of the moments you have with them as they grow up. Every part of their young lives is precious and goes quickly.
Being single and raising a kid can be a rich experience for all. Remember to take care of your own needs. Continue to discover who you are. Your child will teach you a lot about yourself.
You are not perfect. No one is! Remember children are resilient. Most children will grow into mature, responsible adults despite the imperfections of your parenting. The most important thing is that you learn from your mistakes.
Help your child to know they are loved unconditionally by spending quality time with them. Remember you are the parent. Your job is to help them to become adults who will help to make the world a better place.
Stay curious to discover who your child is revealing him or herself to be. Stay consistent. Walk your talk.
Enjoy the journey with your child as you watch them grow into adulthood.
Roland Legge is a life coach here to help you to be the best parent you can be. You can join his private newsletter list for free monthly advice and get your rree Enneagram test and sign up for a free 30-minute discovery call to find out how he can help you.